On May 5, 2020, we held a webinar featuring Jen Davis (JuntoAlumni) and Raman Chadha of The Junto Institute.

Jen and Raman shared how they are updating their self-management practices based on our current times: what they’ve kept and abandoned, what they’re experimenting with, and what is becoming part of their new routine.

Below is a recording of the webinar, through which you can hear their shared experiences, different approaches, and daily practices.

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SUMMARY NOTES

  • Emotional Intelligence

    • Recognize and regulate emotions in ourselves and others

    • Discriminate among those emotions to identify them and why they exist

    • Use that information to guide our thinking, language, and behavior… in a virtuous way

  • Knowing Our Brain

    • reptilian brain (fight or flight, heart rate, etc.)

    • emotional brain (emotional responses and memory), amygdala (powers other parts of brain when under stress), thinking brain (rational, decision-making)

    • EI uses the thinking brain to manage the reptilian brain.

  • The Building Blocks

    • Self-awareness covered in the previous webinar.

    • Self-management:

      • Emotions & impulses in check

      • Achievement orientation & initiative

      • Adapting to change & ambiguity

      • Living & showing up with integrity

  • Emotions & impulses in check – Responding rather than reacting; Creating space between stimulus & response

    • Jen:

      • Past: Remove yourself from the situation/take a walk; Control the amygdala hijack

      • Experimenting with: Practicing EI on a regular basis reduces extreme emotion; Using deep breathing to provide a little space; Exercise for energy and mood; Walking for short trips rather than driving

      • Changed: commute on public transportation; podcast during commute

      • Morning Routine – meditation, journaling, tea – positive space to start the day

    • Raman:

      • Experimenting with: Journaling in the moment, creating space; Using deep breathing to create space; Siberian North Railroad: stop, breathe, notice, and respond

      • Live and work in separate parts of the home to keep impulses and emotions in check.

  • Achievement orientation & initiative – Experimenting with (intrinsic) motivators; having accountability partners

    • Jen:

      • Past: High achievement orientation; Setting goals too high

      • Experimenting with: Doing things that complement husband for meals – motivator for husband and provides intrinsic motivation; help others in areas where they struggle; Coworkers holding one another accountable

      • What has changed: Personal goals in excel charts at home as a reminder to hold oneself accountable

    • Raman:

      • Reframe annual goals and priorities – no longer have 2020 priorities; Operating on a day by day, week by week basis;

      • Morning routine – initiative often tied to morning routine; start getting into a different type of morning routine;

  • Adapting to change & ambiguity – intentionally changing small things

    • Jen:

      • Past: Grew up with single mom; moved a few times due to various circumstances; more of a planner due to background and difficulty with uncertainty

      • Experimenting with: Working on EI has helped with ability to handle uncertainty – trying new things, opening up your world to new things

      • What has changed: can’t make big changes right now – it’s the small things, such as walking instead of driving, small things outside of the norm. Setting yourself up for small things to make a difference over time. Continuing exercise routine at home; Getting more comfortable with remote work.

    • Raman:

      • Recognizing and saying out loud if you are uncomfortable with change and ambiguity

      • Asking for what you need to hear

      • Sharing with yourself what your struggles are through journaling

      • Changing room, home layout; when you’re having meals; adapting to new structure

  • Living & showing up with integrity – living our values

    • Jen:

      • Values being connected with others, including physically connected; missing that connection with family and coworkers is challenging; deepening connections now to compensate for lack of physical connection

      • Sharing your stories – have to show up in a certain way to show and live EI; can be a daunting task; use motivators to ensure you’re showing up; part of sharing your story, which is part of living your values

      • Coming back to things you didn’t have the time or patience for before

    • Raman:

      • Choosing how to spend your time; helping to evaluate what is important; updating values

      • Wrote personal mission statement – looking at what was written in the past compared to what you’re writing today

      • Values growth, curiosity, integrity

      • Some people feeling like they have no time at all – can be a different environment for many

 

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